Neal: When I grow up I'm going to play football for BYU.
Me: Really? What position are you going to play?
Neal: Offensive lineman.
Me: Interesting. Do you think you're going to be big enough?
Neal: Sure. I eat as much as I can so that I'll get bigger.
Me: Ralph, you know how your teacher at school tells you that you can grow up to be anything you want?
Neal: Yes!
Me: She lied.
Our Mother: JULIE! Why would you try and discourage him? He's only 5. Neal, don't pay any attention to your sister.
My defense was that sooner or later he was going to realize that he lacked the size to play on the o-line, and he might as well let that little dream be shattered now, so that he'd still have time to set his heart on something more realistic. My mom didn't buy it.
I'm quite certain that Neal now knows he'll never be a lineman. In fact, it's been years since I've heard him talk about playing football for BYU. My suspicion is that at 14, reality has already snuck in and stolen his dreams, and now it makes me kind of sad to say that.
I've started to wonder what it is that makes some people extraordinary. It has to be because they dreamed, but is it that they never stopped to evaluate their dreams to determine how realistic they were, did they just want what they dreamed more than the rest of us, or did they dream bigger than the rest of us in the first place? I've decided that it must be a combination of all three. I for one did not dream big, and most of my small dreams were lost early on, because I believed them to be unrealistic, and a waste of my time and energies. I'm pretty ordinary, and I, like most of us, live a life of obscurity.
On the bright side I'm still pretty young, and I have my health, so I've had this idea rattling around in my head for a while that what if, I could figure out a way to build new dreams, to replace the ones I've lost, only this time dream big, and not bother myself with being realistic, and really set my heart on them. Maybe my life would wind up totally different, but since I'm sitting here trying to figure out how realistic that is...


2 comments:
Great; now I'm the girl with no dreams!! Thanks a lot. :)
Maybe as we get older, our fanciful, childish dreams fade away and get replaced by more attainable "aspirations." And then "goals" become the shorter feats we must accomplish in order to achieve the aspiration.
Perhaps the super-achievers in the world were the ones whose childish dreams were in fact aspirations, and they had the will and drive to start then to achieve them. These people could also have an extraordinary natural talent relative to that aspiration, as well. (Mozart, for example.)
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